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Prosecuted but Not Silenced: Courtroom Reform for Sexually Abused Children

This guest post was authored and provided to Moms Fight Back by Maralee McLean. In her book, Prosecuted but Not Silenced: Courtroom Reform for Sexually Abused Children, Maralee McLean shares her own legal journey to protect her daughter from her ex-husband and his alleged sexual abuse. She faced barriers at every turn and her ex-husband ultimately won custody. Her efforts to seek justice produced outcomes that would make many protective mothers question whether to travel her path. Maralee shares her motivations for writing the book and her thoughts on court reform.

 

By writing this book I wanted to make a difference for those working in the fields of domestic violence, child abuse, or child trauma so that maltreatment would not continue. I wanted to open the eyes of the legal system to mothers “trapped” in similar situations. I also wanted to make the public aware of the tragedy that is taking place in our courts and to make a difference in saving other children and protective mothers. When an alleged abuser wins custody and a safe, protective mother who is the primary attachment figure is limited to supervised visits, no visitation or parental rights terminated it is an outcome that creates a reaction of disbelief for the media and the public, but sadly is very common.

After experiencing the system fail time and time again despite evidence of abuse: hearing after hearing, enduring year after year of the abuse not being heard; and finally becoming financially depleted, I began to realize a main problem was lack of education and training among professionals handling these cases.

There are thousands of cases in our courts in every state and internationally with the same outcome as mine.  The failure of various systems when child sexual abuse is reported and how these cases get turned against protective parent in family court illustrates a catch-22 situation. Mothers who report sexual abuse nearly always lose custody. Research shows children are place in full or partial custody of their identified sexual abuser 90% of the time.1. Unfortunately many judges, attorneys, and mental health professionals do not understand the overlap of domestic violence and child abuse.

When a child resists going with the abuser and the mother asks for protection from family (divorce) court, the mother is labeled dangerous and considered alienating the child from the father. The “Parental Alienation Syndrome” is relied on heavily although it isn’t approved by the American Medical Association or the American Psychological Association, and is considered “junk science” that should not be allowed in the court. Research shows that in family courts, false allegations of child sexual abuse are rare. The allegations occur in approximately two percent of custody and visitation disputes, and most are substantiated.2.  Family Court judges may not understand evidence that is essential to correct decision making. Incorrect family court decisions will have damaging effects, either by subjecting the child to continued abuse and/or by depriving the child of a relationship with the non-abusive parent.

Most of these cases involve domestic violence. No child should be placed in unsupervised visits contact with a domestic violence abuser against a child’s will. Children need safe homes and need to have their constitutional rights protected. Giving an abuser control over the mother and the child is the ultimate act of re-vicitimization. The mother is treated as a criminal with the loss of the children she tried to protect. She is often ordered to supervised visits, sometimes lasting for years (even though she is not the abusive parent), jailed, given gag orders, depleted financially, and ordered to pay child support and all court costs. Finally she may experience a de facto termination of her parental rights when the courts disallows visits or allow that parent to be in the child’s life.

My book is a case study. It includes legal documents to educate professionals, along with information on research studies, and my documentation of proof: police reports, doctor reports, hospital reports, judge’s orders, etc. My hope is that professionals will seek training and not turn away. Attorney Richard Ducote said it well, “We need to disinfect these trusted institutions. Many family courts accept and embrace as “infallible” flawed “evidence” and “experts” who would be rejected outright in other courtrooms based on constitutional law, rules of evidence, and judicial procedure.”

New measures must be taken. Most important are to: (1)ensure safety of the child (2) not be so quick to ignore abuse allegations and assume it is a vindictive ex-wife:  (3) listen to the children: and (4) educate and understand these case as domestic violence and child abuse case, not “high conflict” cases. (5) Accountability for judges and professionals who need continuing education in child sexual abuse and domestic violence. (6) Discontinue use of Parental Alienation Syndrome (7) Child sexual abuse is a criminal matter not a custody issue….

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One response to “Prosecuted but Not Silenced: Courtroom Reform for Sexually Abused Children”

  1. Carole Pigman says:

    You ABSOLUTELY MUST HEAR OUR STORY! My 2 youngest adopted from Vietnam and China! My son disclosed to me and his sister August 2014, my son brutally raped and sodomized by my ex husband in the State of Oregon the courts left my oldest biological daughter with the “alleged ” perpetrator even though our couns testified in court 3x about the horrific abuse notifying DHD managers, CLACKAMAS county Sheriff, many in authority! I too wad dragged over the coals, forced to participate in a psychological eval (no mental health diagnosis except anxiety), Interrogated, financially drained and victim shamed, shunned, called horrific names. Now other victims have come forward and still nothing has been done except to protect the perpetrator and sympathize with him! My child SUFFERED UNIMAGINABLE TORTURE AS DOCUMENTED BY OUR COUNSELOR AND REPORTED TO MANY IN AUTHORITY EVEN THE DISTRICT ATTORNEY, the Superintendent of N CLACKAMAS school district, the Governor, Teachers, senators and now the Attorney General.

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